Balance Is Not a Four-Letter Word

What does the word “balance” mean to you? Balance can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. I’ve noticed that many people stonesthink that life balance isn’t possible, or even desirable, because they are hung up on the word “balance.” Some folks think that balance means dividing up your time equally between work and home. I don’t know about you, but that does not sound appealing to me at all.

If you’re a left-brain, math-type, maybe you think of life balance the same way you think of balancing your check book.  Again, not much fun to me.  I guess I have a more right-brained, creative view of balance.   To me, balance is about finding your perfect mix or flow.  It’s like plant fertilizer.  If you want your orchid to grow and blossom, you have to find the right fertilizer mix for that particular plant. Orchids need the right balance, of soil, water, and sunlight to really thrive.

Work life balance is not about equalizing everything–it’s about creating harmony between your business and your personal life. 

Balance is about managing everything that is important to you and living your ideal life.  Believe me, balance is NOT a “four-letter” word.  Call it whatever you like (congruence, flow, harmony, etc.), but balance is essential to true sustainable success in your business and living a satisfying life.  The ability to create one’s own perfect mix is one of  the main reasons why most entrepreneurs become entrepreneurs in the first place.

I would love to hear what “balance” means to you. Please feel free to share your thoughts below.

About Tiffany deSilva

Tiffany deSilva is the founder, CEO, and visionary leader of BrightFire Women’s Business Network, LLC.

BrightFire Women’s Business Network is the premiere sales training and coaching resource for service-based women entrepreneurs who want to increase their sales, serve more people, and change more lives.

Feedback & Comments:

  1. I call it the “blended life” and have written about this several times. Totally agree, the “cut and dried” balance thing doesn’t work.

  2. Tiffany, this is something I feel that, as a working mother, I struggle with on a regular basis. There is no question it helps to be self employed in terms of flexibility (however I work longer/harder than ever as well!) I really like Sue’s description of “blended life.” I’ve never thought of the balance as a check book equation. Rather I think of it as a gymnast precariously balancing on the balance beam (after a back flip or two!)

  3. I used to be one of those people who took the word literally and felt I had to give equal time to equal things I cared about. Well, that is not sustainable!! For me balance is having my priorities in alignment with my values and choosing to spend as much time as needed so that I feel fulfilled and happy.

  4. this is perfect “The ability to create one’s own perfect mix is one of the main reasons why most entrepreneurs become entrepreneurs in the first place.”

  5. I’ve always seen it as more of an ebb and flow. Different things require more focus than others at different times. Balancing, to me, means working on remembering that not all things are equal all the time and yet all of these pieces and parts, life, work, motherhood, wife, daughter, sister, friend, gardener, domestic artist, caregiver, volunteer, human, make up the whole of who I am and each of them deserves time and space for recognition.

    Thanks for the thoughtful moment!

  6. My preference has always been to strive for life/work synergy!

  7. Tiffany,
    There is the mythical standard of ‘work life’ balance.
    And then there is reality – which means to do what works for you.
    Women as they climb the corporate ladder do not have to become men.
    Men as they have a growing family and children do not have to become the missing parent.
    Everyone will define their own formula for what is important to them.

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